As a little girl I couldn’t wait to grow up to become a mom. At three years old I didn’t realize how much went into actually fulfilling this dream, I just thought one day I’d be a mom and that was all there was to it. Boy was I wrong. First I had to grow up — go to school, become responsible, experience life — and then I had to find a man, ugh! This becoming a mom dream wasn’t going to be easy.
Unlike a lot of my friends, I didn’t actually meet my prince charming until I was 35 (and 1/2 to be exact) and we didn’t get married until I was 36 so I wasn’t young by any stretch but I wasn’t old...or was I? Once again, boy was I wrong!
Fast forward several years (we will explore those years in a later post) and I gave birth, by emergency c-section, to a beautiful baby boy. Baby “H” was born 7 pounds, 6 ounces and 21 inches long just after my 40th birthday! Finally…after all those years of praying, bargaining with God, and a lot of tears I was finally becoming a mom, well momma to be exact as that’s what H calls me.
Becoming a mom in your forties is totally worth it! I think when women hit their 40’s they feel like it’s probably too late to have kids and I am here to tell you that it is possible and it is such a blessing. Yes, you will be tired and yes, your back will ache as well as other body parts, but just like everything — you’ve got this!
Being a momma in your forties will give you a different perspective on becoming a parent. I am sure I would have been a great mom in my 20’s or even my 30’s, but for me becoming a mom later in life — as well as struggling to become pregnant — really made me appreciate the miracle of becoming a mom.
Being a mom is your forties can be easier financially, another perk. Let’s face it, caring for children comes with a few extra expenses. If you are lucky and/or want to breast feed, you will save a lot of money if you chose to do so. Formula, bottles, and any expense associated with nourishing your baby the first year is expensive. Then you have childcare, healthcare, clothing, toys, and the list goes on and on and on. Generally in our late 30’s and early 40’s we are a bit more established in our career and generating steady income and in some cases you may be able to forgo one income to have a parent at home.
If you are like me and your desire to become a mom - please don’t let age be the deciding factor. My perspective as an older momma, I believe, is one of my greatest strengths and it can be yours too. And don't forget, if you are unable to have children of your own there are other ways to become a mom, explore your options because you have a lot of them!